Couples & Marital Therapy

Couples therapy isn't just for relationships in crisis. Many couples come in not because something has broken, but because they want to communicate better, understand each other more deeply, or work through a transition before it becomes a problem. That kind of proactive investment in a relationship is one of the most valuable things two people can do together.

That said, plenty of couples do arrive in the middle of something hard: a breach of trust, a period of distance, a conflict that keeps cycling without resolution, or a major life change that's put strain on the relationship. All of it is workable. The question is whether both people are willing to show up for the process.

What couples therapy actually looks like

Sessions involve both partners in the room, or both on screen for telehealth, working together with a therapist who isn't on anyone's side. The goal isn't to declare a winner or assign blame. It's to slow things down enough that two people can actually hear each other, understand what's underneath the conflict, and find a way forward that works for both of them.

This practice draws from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Relational-Cultural approaches, frameworks that take seriously the emotional bond between partners and the patterns of connection and disconnection that develop over time. A lot of what looks like conflict is actually disconnection wearing a loud costume. When people feel genuinely seen and safe with each other, the conflict usually softens.

Some reasons couples reach out

• Communication breakdowns, feeling like you're talking past each other
• Recurring conflicts that never fully resolve
• Emotional distance or disconnection
• Trust repair after infidelity or betrayal
• Major life transitions, new baby, relocation, job change, loss
• Premarital counseling and preparation
• Parenting disagreements
• Intimacy concerns
• Deciding whether to stay or separate

All couples are welcome

This practice is affirming and welcoming of couples of all orientations, identities, and relationship structures. The work is yours, I'm here to help you do it.